Grace in the Home: 21 Rules of This House

Thanks for all the feedback via my blog, Facebook, and e-mail. It looks like a lot of you share my interest in Gregg Harris’s 21 Rules of This House! My husband already publically committed to work on following #14-19, bless his heart. He’s not the only one…I struggle as well. My prayer is that by working through these rules, we will be on the road to a happier and more peaceful home!

Rule #1 – We obey God.

I love that the first rule is the foundation on which the other 20 rules are written, as well as the foundation of the first four 10 Commandments. In order to obey God, we must acknowledge God as our creator. He made us and is the author of our life.

“You are worthy, O Lord, To receive glory and honor and power; For you created all things, and by Your will they exist and were created.” Rev. 4:11

In His great mercy, He takes care of us.

“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I Peter 5:6

This doesn’t mean that we only love and obey God when things are going our way. God does not promise that our lives will be free of trials! This is what He promises:

"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16

How can we NOT want to love and obey God when He gives us the gift of eternal life? Even though we don’t deserve it! The hardships of this life are but a moment in the expanse of eternity. {Lord, help me remember this.}

Because of these truths, we should have a heart that seeks to understand God and obey Him more every day. It’s a whole new way of thinking! Everything we do, say…how we act, speak…what we spend our time doing…how we spend our money…our WHOLE LIVES should be lived in a way that seeks to obey God simply because we love Him and are thankful for the gift of eternal life.

When we shift our way of living from how to please ourselves to how to please God, it gives us great freedom AND happiness! Instead of being slaves to our own sinful desires, we can finally love others, forgive others, experience contentment, and have true joy in Christ. It is the journey of the Christian life…and it always ends with the joy of eternal life with Christ.

Practically speaking, here are some ideas of how we can implement this rule in the home:

Read the Bible. Read the teachings of Jesus, read Proverbs, do a word study on the word “obey.” There are some great examples in the Old Testament of kings of Israel who did not obey God…and the destruction that followed. Conversely, there were kings who did obey God…and were blessed.
Have a regular time of family devotions. What better way for our kids to learn how to love and obey God? When we spend time outside of church studying Scripture, it communicates to our kids how important God’s truths are!
Think before we speak/act. (“What does God teach about this? How would God have me respond?”)
Make obeying God part of our conversation. Talk out loud with our kids about different choices and which choices are obedient to God.
Post these things around the house: 10 Commandments, verses that talk about obeying God (Acts 5:29, Rom. 6:17, Heb. 5:9, etc.), 21 Rules of This House.

Thanks for following along. I would LOVE to hear from you! Perhaps you have comments, questions, or additional ideas about how to implement this rule in your home. I welcome all feedback!